How to respond to your overeating excuses
Oct 25, 2022Hello, you amazing ladies, how are you today? I'm so happy to bring you this podcast. Because I wanted to keep it real for you, I wanted to tell you exactly what's going on in my brain, so that you may be able to relate to it whenever this kind of thing happens to you as well. So before I get started on the podcast, did you hear I have extended out the launch for the November group coaching programme. Initially, it was meant to end on the 21st of October, but you have over two weeks to actually know exactly two weeks to get your application in, I had messages from several people saying that they weren't able to find a time that actually suit them. So I was like, well, we start the live event on 6th November. Why don't I just keep enrollment open till the fourth of November. So if you are listening to this, when it comes out on the 25th October, I want you to know that there is a place available for you in the group coaching programme, it is a sacred space, where you will learn how to lose weight in a way that you will be able to sustain for the rest of your life. Because you are the person who will create the plan of what you're going to eat. I don't know what you are, what your body is going to be seeking, I don't know what your family likes to eat, I don't know what your preferences are. So when you create the plan yourself every single day for the rest of your life, then your brain is less likely to rebel against it. Because remember, we've got a primitive brain that's always going to want us to seek pleasure, avoid pain and stay where we are, it's always going to if I gave you like a plan that said, You need to eat X, Y and Z and do this and then do that your brain is gonna be like, Heck, no, she doesn't know me, I don't want to stick to this, and then you give up. So one way of getting your brain on board is to actually get you to plan it. Because when you have planned it yourself, your brain is less likely to rebel. So this is a place where we make weight loss simple. We make it so that you can actually follow it. Instead of thinking, Do you know what I need to find out all of this, and all of that, and all of this and all of that. So if this is something that you would like to experience, then this is your time. Unknown Speaker 2:38 Most of my clients struggle over the festival period, they struggle over Diwali over Christmas over Thanksgiving, over Halloween. And so if this is you, this is the perfect time to join, because you will get support over all of that. And as soon as you apply, you will have the opportunity to book a free consult with me. So the application is literally a few questions and it takes about three minutes to fill in. There are no right answers. Even if you're not sure exactly what to write, you can trust that I will not judge any of your answers. I just want to know what is the first thing that comes into your head and just write that in, it's completely fine. And if you really are struggling with an answer, you can just literally put a full stop in the box and submit it. All I want you to do is take that, like give yourself that chance to think about some of these questions. And as soon as you've submitted you will be directed onto a page where you can book a free consult with me, I have slots open all of the next couple of weeks, I am going to be taking some time off for Divali. So if you are listening to this episode when it comes out a very Happy Diwali to you if you celebrate, and a very happy new year if that is something you celebrate. Diwali is the time where we celebrate light over darkness, we celebrate good over evil. And I really want you to find your own light and learn how to overcome some of your darkness, the darkness that your brain creates the darkness that you've been carrying around with you for so very long. And this is exactly what we do in the group coaching programme. So I invite you to join and this is your time, my love. This is your time, and I can't wait to get to know you on the console. Okay, Unknown Speaker 4:38 so let's get started with today's episode. It's gonna be a short one for you today, because I just want to keep it real. I really did not want to record today's episode today. My primitive brain was having a big tantrum. It was like no, you didn't have time for that. You've got to go and pick up the boys. You said that you're going to be off for the next five days because I'm ready We're doing this on Friday the 21st of October. And it was having a big tantrum. It was like no. Why don't you just take a week off? It's okay. It's only one week, you've been recording an episode every single week for the last, what? 70 plus weeks? Why don't just take a week off, it's okay. No one will even mind, no one will even know. It's alright. And it tried again and again and again, to tell me that no one even wants to, like listen to it, no one is going to be paying that much attention. And that's when I just had to stop. I knew that my primitive brain was trying to keep me safe. It didn't want me to exert even more energy. Because whenever I'm doing something that feels uncomfortable, I feel a negative emotion. And my project brain thinks that something has gone wrong, that this is unsafe, that I shouldn't be doing this. So in that moment, I had to be aware of oh, there's my primitive brain trying to keep me safe. Okay, I see. But also, I wanted to think about the long term, like aim. I am not a coach who just gives into my brain to brain mall all the time. But I wanted to keep it real for you. And to show you that I have a human brain as well. And this is what happens so much of the time. This shows up in weight loss, because your brain is gonna say, Oh, do you know what, let's just start tomorrow, it's okay, today, you know, you've been so good for so long. Why don't you just eat this one thing is only one thing, don't worry about it, it's fine. That's when you want to start being aware that your protect brain is trying to keep you safe. Of course, it's going to offer you these thoughts. It's literally primed to ensure your survival. And it thinks that when you think these things, it's going to ensure your survival, right. So expect those books expect them to come. And when they come, don't be shocked. This is just your brain trying to keep you safe. It's trying to get trying to like ensure your survival, nothing has gone wrong there. So I had to remind my brain. And luckily, I had a coaching session right before this recording. So I was able to bring myself to a space where I reminded myself that I am a coach who shows up, I am a coach who shows up for all of you. I do think even when my brain doesn't really want to do it. Because I know who I'm becoming, I'm becoming a person. And I already am a person who stays true to my word. Who does things even when I don't want to do them. And this is one of the main tricks that I found in my weight loss journey. When I was able to make a plan, even when I didn't want to do it. That was huge in my journey. When I was able to partner with myself, and say to myself, hey, what's one tiny little step that I can do? What's one tiny little step that I can take? Then I was able to get myself to a place where I could literally allow myself to record a 510 minute episode. And trust that that was exactly what many people needed to hear. So that I was honouring all of you, and providing you this amazing content and honouring myself honouring my brain? Honouring that, yes, sometimes I'm not going to want to do the full episode. And that is okay. But I can trust that this 510 minute episode is going to be exactly what my people need to hear. It's going to be that bit of motivation that they needed to hear exactly when it came out exactly when they're listening to it. So how can you incorporate this in your weight loss journey? There's gonna be times plenty of times hundreds 1000s of times where your brain is going to offer? Do you know what it doesn't really matter? You don't really need to do this now. It's okay, why don't we just start on Monday? Or for a lot of you? It may be let's just start in January. It may be how can I like you know, I can't lose weight over the festival season. So you know what I'll just start later on. Unknown Speaker 9:08 What that is doing is it's your primitive brain trying to keep you safe, because it thinks when you're going to make a change that you're going to feel some discomfort and discomfort is bad according to your primitive brain. But remember, no emotion can ever harm you. Even if it feels super scary, it will never harm you. It's a vibration in your body. And you are built to experience these emotions. Remember life is 50:50 You're going to have positive emotion 50% of the time and negative emotion 50% of the time. And the quicker you can embrace that negative emotion and not mean that something has gone wrong and that you have done something wrong and just normalise that this is just my 5050 of life. This will be everything for you. Recently, I went to number three at one of our local events. And I saw someone who said to me, Amruti, I don't need to lose weight, but I listened to your podcast every single week. And she said, Thank you so much for showing up and giving us your wisdom every week. She said, My mom and I listened to the podcast. And we talk to each other about the concepts all the time. And she said, My favourite concept is the 5050. concept. And she said, when I can normalise that, yes, I'm having a negative emotion. And this is normal. This is just my 5050 of life that really helps to bring some calm. And she even said, that, when we're going through a tough time, my mom and I talk about what would Amruti say in this? How would Amruti advise us. And literally just hearing that I, it like, just made my heart smile, because I was like, even when I can put up these episodes when I don't want to, and when my primitive brain is trying to keep me safe. And it can impact so many of you on your journey. This is why I do what I do. Right? This is exactly the reason why I do that. So if you would like to learn these tools, to be able to take one tiny little step forward in the direction that you want to take, even if it means writing two words in your planner, when you don't want to make a plan, even if it is literally feeling your urge for five seconds either. And you really don't want to feel it. Even if it's recording five minutes of a podcast, even when I really don't want to record it. That's when you can. It's basically like a little hack into your brain, you can get your brain on site. You don't need to do so much to get results. It's like I say to my my clients all the time. I have a very amazing six step process. And for all of you who don't know, the six step process, I'm going to go over it very quickly for you. The first step is making a doable plan. The second step is sticking to the plan and evaluating without judgement. The third step is feeling your emotions. The fourth step is feeling your urges. The fifth step is eating when you're hungry, and eating too enough. And the sixth step is self coaching, and mine management. My clients come in to the group coaching programme thinking, oh, gosh, I've got to get everything perfect. I've got to, you know, do all of the six steps, and I've got to get everything done. I just wanted to tell you a few stories about some of my clients who literally do the bare minimum. And they're getting killer results. So one of my clients, she is at her normal BMI already, but she wanted to lose about 10 to 15 pounds, because she felt that she was over restricting her food. And she was spending a lot of time thinking about her food. And she wanted to improve our overall health, she felt that her clothes were getting too tight. And she literally just wanted to lose a little bit of weight so that she could fit back into her clothes, and stop obsessing about food all the time. So this is when she joined the group coaching programme. This client of mine has been travelling a hell of a lot. She She travelled for work trips, and she's an absolute badass. So that's when she used to overeat. And it was because she was not taking the time out to plan for herself. So we talked about how could she make a doable plan wherever she was. And she had this perfectionistic mindset of I need to make sure I'm doing all six steps I need to do all bits of the planner is going to take me ages. And we literally found a way that she could make a plan for herself, regardless of what was going on for her. And we asked her how could she make that work for herself. So she said, Well, I'm going to do is when I'm brushing my teeth in the morning, I'm going to write down what I'm going to eat. And I'm going to message it to myself. And I'm like, great. Unknown Speaker 13:57 She's like, what? That's okay. I'm like, Yeah, that's you're making a plan for yourself. So this is how she makes a plan. It literally takes her 45 seconds in the morning. And that is her. She doesn't do any of the other. You know, she doesn't evaluate her plans. She's hardly looked at the planner. She has not looked at any of the modules in the course. And what she commits to doing is coming to at least one of the calls per week and planning her food for 45 seconds a day. And what she does is she takes part in the private Facebook group of the seven members that we've got in there at the moment, and she just says you know what, I am going to just take part in my spare time. She does that and she's lost eight pounds in eight weeks. What this is whilst travelling, whilst being able to wear clothes that she never used to wear whilst adding in foods that she used over restrict. This is what we do in the group coaching programme. You don't need to follow the six steps Exam. Clearly, you will get killer results just by focusing on even one of the steps. And this is my inventory listen to you, this is possible for you to I welcome you into this amazing container. I'm so proud that I've created and that my clients are like literally changing their entire lives and the lives of all of their children and everyone around them. So I invite you into this space. It's an intimate small group coaching programme, and I would love to have you there. So make sure you apply and get your free consult booked in by the fourth of November. We start the live event on the sixth of November, and we start our first group coaching call on the eighth of November. I can't wait to see you there. Take care bye bye