Advice from a fad dieter

Hello. Wonderful ladies. Welcome to the podcast. So I am so excited because at the time of recording, I am in the process of doing my slimmer for summer mind and body challenge. And it is going so well. There are so many amazing ladies. They're committed to changing the way they think so that they can create the results that they want.

And the result that they want is that freedom from food that not having to worry about their food or their weight ever again. And in the challenge, I've been teaching them how to start. Using some of the mind management tools that I teach in the group coaching program and start using it right now. So they can start being aware of their minds and changing the way they think so that they can feel a different way and take different actions which are going to create the results that they actually.

So interestingly, one of the questions that I asked them, just kind of to get to know each other was what was the most extreme diet that you have been on. And this was really interesting for me because I wanted to see what were the different things that people have done in the effort to lose weight.

And I was amazed. How many different things, all these amazing ladies have tried. And it made me realise that this is something that really matters. This is something that so many successful, amazing ladies are struggling with and they are struggling daily. And that's why my work, my purpose in life is to help you with that.

So my aim is to do that in the podcast and in my posts and emails and challenges and all the value that I offer to you. So when I was asking. I was thinking of fat diets in mind. So I had fad diets. And when I think of a fat diet, I think of a diet that you are doing that you know, is not going to be sustainable for the rest of your life.

You may think of it as a kickstart, or you may think of it as something that's going to shock your metabolism or something. That's going to give you, weight loss fast. Now, whenever I think of this, I always think of. The weight-loss diet that I always used to go back to. And this was a very extreme cleanse.

I think it was called the masterclass. And it was where for seven days you had nothing but maple syrup, lemon and cayenne pepper mixed in water. And you would drink that drink multiple times a day. And that would be the thing that gave you energy and apparently cleansed your body. Now I used to do this before a holiday so that I would, Become well in my eyes, cleansed of all the toxins and that I would lose weight fast because in my head I had the thought weight loss is hard.

So when I thought that I would feel discouraged and when I felt discouraged, I would take the action of doing something drastic that I knew that would last for a short amount of time and really pin all my hopes on that. And then I would lose a bit of weight, but. The holiday would come and go and I would gain way more than I had lost in the cleanse.

And then I would feel even more discouraged and the whole cycle would continue. Now. Of course, at that time, I did not know what was going on, but in retrospect, I can look back and see, oh, of course that was going on for. And now looking back on my past self, I can have compassion for her and realise why I was in that kind of desperate energy to lose weight, because this is the one thing in my life that I had not conquered.

This is the one thing that I was not able to succeed at. And that thought made me feel very upset, a little bit of shame, I'd say as well, to be honest. So when I was asking my clients in the group, what is the most extreme diet that you've been on? There were so many interesting answers.

So a few other people said the master cleanse diet. So the maple syrup lemon and cayenne pepper, one, a lot of people said the cabbage soup diet, all of them put the. Like vomiting emoji, because I think they were remembering their experience of doing that. Some other ones were eating raw fruit and fetch and only eating that, eating certain things on a certain day.

I think there was one that was the potato diet. A lot of people talked about intense exercise and a lot of people talked about very low calorie diet. Now some of the ones that weren't mentioned, but come up often with my clients are, intermittent fasting where they're fasting just one meal a day. the fast 800 comes up often and often a lot of my clients think, oh no, I have to do the fast 800 because there's some scientific evidence that shows that that works now.

That's all fine. Even if there is scientific evidence that shows that it works, but any diet will only work if you are going to stick to it. So if you are taking the actions, but you're feeling deprived the whole time. You're never going to be able to sustain it. Whereas if you're taking the actions and you're feeling energised and you're feeling really positive about it, that may be something that you can sustain.

So what you want to think about is what is the feeling that's driving those actions and remember. And we're feelings are created by thoughts in our brain. So you want to start looking into what is the thought that is creating that feeling for me? So most of my clients, whenever they were talking about all of these past diets, they had a lot of shame.

They had a lot of sadness for their past selves, because they were thinking I was so desperate that I did all of these things to my. And there's also a lot of shame that comes up when you think I ruined my metabolism and that's why I'm not losing weight. Now, what want you to think about is whenever we think about our paths and it creates pain, it's only because we are thinking a thought right now that is creating that pain.

That past is now a fact. We can't change it. It's just something that happened. It's actually neutral, but when we are assigning meaning to it and thinking a thought of, I ruined my metabolism, then that's the thought that's going to create pain in your body, emotional pain. It's gonna create the shame.

Right? So you want to look at what is your story about. So when I was thinking about how can we actually create, a food plan that doesn't have these fad diets that doesn't have these extreme measures. What would you need to think about? And the main thing is you want to start losing weight in a way that feels sustainable for you.

And if you're losing weight in a way that doesn't feel sustainable, then you are unlikely to carry that. Now a small caveat to that in my group coaching program, a lot of my clients have unbalanced hunger hormones. So in the beginning we learn how to balance their hunger hormones. And that may mean them eating a different way than they've always eaten.

And I give you this caveat because that period of kind of three to six weeks where they're learning how to pay attention to their hunger signals may actually be quite unconscious. But that is not a bad thing. It's just because your body is adjusting to a different way of eating. And what I just want to tell you is that for the vast majority of people, they get through this three to six week period, and then they feel so much better.

They feel so much less hungry. The urges are less. They have. Less frequent urges and the urges aren't as strong. So when they aren't able to eat at a certain time, because they've got a work meeting or something else is going on in their life, they feel hungry. And then like normal, physical hunger. You get a little bit of a hunger wave and then it goes away because your body learns how to tap into its fat stores.

It learns how to access the fat stores on your body to provide it with fuel. So. It's okay. In the first immediate period, if you don't feel amazing, but I just want to advise you to stick with it just for that time period, because that's, when you come out the other side and it makes it much easier for you to follow your protocol.

Another thing that I wanted to say is the reason why the group coaching program is so effective is because. I'm not giving you a protocol for you to follow and strictly telling you, you must follow this because you have done these things in the past and you haven't stuck to them, which is why you're listening to this podcast today.

The reason why most people don't stick to these kinds of diets, where, nutritionists or personal trainers or someone may have created a specific plan for you. The reason why most people don't stick to them is because they know that they're. in quotation marks should be eating a certain way, but they aren't.

And that makes them feel a lot of shame, but the way I teach you how to create your own protocol, I give you the guidelines and things. And then you create the food protocol that suits you and you trial it for a little while, and then you see. What is actually working, what isn't working and what will I do differently.

This helps you to normalize tweaking things, because there is no diet that is going to be a hundred percent, right? From the beginning, you are always going to want to tweak things. You're always going to want to make things more specific to. So, what we do in the group coaching program is I give you the guidelines and then you look in the fridge and you say, okay, I'm going to plan this on my protocol.

Oh, um, I want to make this for my family. So I'm going to make this because that means that we can all eat the same food and we can all eat together because my aim is to make it easy for. It will be easy for you when it is, something that you can follow when it's something that you enjoy eating when it's something that you have eaten for the majority of your life, but you're just making a few tweaks so that it's serving your body and it is providing you with the nutrients that you actually need.

But that takes a little bit of my management and being able to feel that discomfort in the moment. Another thing I would say is don't compare yourself to others because you will be on a completely different journey. You may need to unwind more food trauma than they do, or you may be losing weight much quicker than other people are, and it is completely okay for you to be on your own weight loss journey you are doing perfectly on your own weight, loss journey.

Nothing is, you know, you're not too late in joining the group coaching program. You know, there's just no benefit in thinking. I wish I had found this a year ago or 10 years ago or five years ago or whatever that story may be in your brain. I always turn it around to how is this perfect for me right now?

So whenever I'm thinking these kinds of things, like always turn it to I'm so grateful. I found this right now because now I have a protocol that we'll be able to follow for. And if that protocol no longer is something that I actually enjoy. I know how to tweak things and make it perfect for me, which brings me on to my last point.

You want to be willing to fail and tweak. And with that, what I want to say is you want to be able to push yourself a little bit. You want to be able to be in your discomfort. But not in your terror zone. Now there's a big difference when you're in the terror zone, you're going to have your stress response of fight or flight or freeze.

And so if you're in the terror zone, you might freeze and actually not do anything. Whereas when you're in your discomfort zone, yes, it may feel a bit uncomfortable, but you want to feel a little bit of discomfort. And I use discomfort as a guide to I'm pushing myself enough and I'm growing because you want to do the thing that's actually going to grow.

The reason you're listening to this podcast. The reason you're in the group coaching program is because you want to learn how to do things in a different way. And when you're doing things in a different way, there is going to be discomfort because you've got that human brain that wants you to seek pleasure, avoid pain and stay how you are.

So what I would advise you to do is I would advise you to play around with it, try a little. Then push yourself a little bit more the next day and a little bit more the next day you want to make the increments small. So your brain doesn't go into freak out mode, but you do want to be feeling a little bit of discomfort because discomfort is the currency to success, my friends.

And when you are feeling discomfort on purpose on a regular basis, this is going to be the thing that will actually help you get to your goal. So how does stop. Firstly stop thinking. There's a quick fix. There is no quick fix. There is only a diet that is going to be a lifestyle for you. So you want to lose a way, lose weight in a way that feels sustainable for you and with the caveat that initially when you're learning to balance your hunger hormones, it may be uncomfortable and that's okay.

Don't compare yourself to others because you're on your own. Perfect. And be willing to fail and tweak and push yourself into that discomfort zone, because that is where the growth happens. And that is where you will find the protocol that is perfect for you because it exists out there. It is just the protocol that you make.

Perfect. Okay. My friends, if you haven't joined the may group coaching program, it isn't too late for you. Make sure you go to my website, www.amruticoaching.com/group and we start tomorrow.

Okay. I can't wait to serve you next week. Take care ladies. Bye-bye.